5/31/2017 0 Comments Dealing with expectationsNo matter your situation in life the human mind will always find a way to feel depressed. Meaning you can have everything you ever wanted but you will always find something to be depressed about. This happens because as humans we naturally enjoy being challenged, some more than others of course. But once we complete a challenge our brain releases endorphins. These endorphins feel amazing and we can get addicted to them. We then start to believe that we can take on bigger challenges and we start to expect that we are going to succeed in them just like we did in the past. The only problem is that we might not succeed.
I have found this to be a huge challenge at the start of the 2017 beach volleyball season. Cole and myself found ourselves with some massive improvements in both our team and on the court. We were developing a new game style and it was working. We won our first national tour in Australia, won our first FIVB world tour medal, qualified on the world tour for the first time and finished with a 5. This was all amazing and I was loving the challenge and wanted more. The only problem was my expectations were starting to get out of control. Our coach would make us fill a sheet out that had a list of questions on it such as; What’s your goals for the next 4 years? In January before we achieve all these great results I had on my list to win a national tour, qualify for a world tour event, be a consistent main draw team at the end of the 4 years. All these things have happened so far except for being a consistent main draw team. Once that month passed and we needed to fill the sheets out again my expectations grew out of control. I started putting; win a world tour event, win the commonwealth games, go to the Olympics. These are all still goals I want to achieve but these goals can but they made me skip steps. After this we started to compete in Asia and in the past Australia have dominated the Asian region. Because of everything we have achieved in the past I believe that this was going to be an easy run of collecting cash and World Tour points. This wasn’t the case at all, we didn’t completely bomb out but I wanted to win all three Asian events but we finished with two 9th places and a 5th place. Because of these results we then missed out on playing in more World Tour events. I started to feel frustrated and annoyed that we have achieved great results in the past but can’t play the big events because we needed to win in Asia. I don’t believe that putting the more extreme goal on my list because I want them. I now see where I went wrong, it was my expectations. I started to let my expectations control me and I forgot about the process that lead me to achieving success. You may think there are smaller goals (Asian tour) and bigger goals (Olympics) but they are all equal. Because you can’t achieve the end result without going through the process. Keep your expectations in check just by remember that you are very blessed to achieve what you have achieved and keep being patiently impatient.
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5/9/2017 0 Comments Becoming too self-focusedYou ever felt like someone is so selfish and you wouldn’t help that person even if they asked you. That one person who only thinks about themselves and take everything while giving nothing back. Now we all have people such as this in our lives. 1; they might not even realise what they are doing or 2; they are truly greedy and just want everything for themselves. Don’t get caught up in this bullshit. They won’t reach their full potential, because to reach our greatest goals we need people. If there is no way to avoid these people because you work with them, you need to be straight up with them. Talk to them but remember that their perception/view may be different so don’t get annoyed when they don’t fully understand your side. Over time if they don’t change or if you don’t change other people will slowly drift away. For yourself you need to keep being as giving and helpful to everyone. The more you give to other people the more you will receive back and over time strong relationships will form. These relationships are what make life easy but also live able. Everyone is different and just keep remembering that most people are trying their best so give them time change.
People are always going to be self-focused but if you are willing to make a change in your actions you will see the actions of other change around you. You can’t always be giving to others without giving to yourself. Putting time and energy into helping other people can be exhausting so you need to look after yourself. But the beautiful thing about this system is that other people will see that you are exhausted and they will come help you and it comes back in tenfold. All those people that you spend the time putting effort into will be there for you. But most importantly, before you start judging why someone is being selfish or not consideration others in your opinion. Take a look within yourself because at the end of the day you might actually be the problem. So man up and move on with your life. |
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